#9.Dealing with my messy untidy life

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I was up in my room with my eyes glued to the phone, earphones plugged and totally oblivious to the outside world when I heard my mom calling out “Have you cleaned your room yet or does it still look like a dump-yard?” I did the only thing expected of me.. Pretended that I hadn’t heard her and that was when she marched all the way upstairs and barged into my room.. With a dramatic gasp she cried “The guests will he here in an hour.. What will they say when they see your room in this condition” okay first of all mom, they are coming to see us not our home and second it’s not like they are gonna come and inspect for garbage in every single room and mine is upstairs.. So we are pretty much safe here! Except I didn’t say any of these out aloud, I just rolled my eyes and started clearing up the garbage.

I’m not the neatest person I know,not even close . I’m not proud of it but that’s the brutal truth. My room is almost always a mess but I never let that worry me because I always seem to know exactly what thing is kept where, even if the room’s a huge mess. And even if I do manage to tidy it up I always end up ruining it while searching for clothes to wear. Typical girl life! Some days I make an effort to actually clean up the mess and it’s all good while it lasts but then I go back to being my old self in a day or two.

I’ll give you a grand tour through my room. Packets of open biscuits gone cold.. Wrappers of Twix, Toblerone and Snickers.. Peels of orange and banana.. All over my table and bed but not a single thing in the waste bin. It looks almost as good as it did the day mom bought it into my room and said” if you don’t put the rubbish in it, I’ll put you in it.. ” and she wasn’t even kidding.

I constantly get bullied by my mom for being so untidy. She says that I can easily pass for a rag picker given the attire I choose to wear at home. And my hair is another fail story. I had this okayish long hair. Then I got tired of seeing the same old me everyday in the mirror. Since I cannot chop my head off, I chopped off my hair to give myself a new look.. And here I’m looking messier than ever…

But in my defence guys, I do clean up my room but I hate getting pushed into doing it. Like one fine morning, I’ll think to myself that I’ll clean my room today. Then my mom makes the villain entry. She asks(more like orders) me to clean my room, then I’ll say “yeaaa mom I’ll do it”.. After 59 seconds she’ll go” you are not gonna clean it are you, such an irresponsible girl you are.. While I was half your age I used to sweep the entire house all by myself. What will I ever do with this girl.. What will you do after you get married off? Your mother-in-law would send you back to here in one day…blah blah blahh”. This is so emotionally draining, why do we have to go through this ordeal every single time! Now my mood to clean the room gets totally spoiled and I’ll extend this chore to another day and 90% of the time my mom ends up cleaning my room before the next episode of drama happens. Actually I’m thinking of making it my next new year resolution, to be a neater person. I have seven months to mentally prepare myself for this so I think it’s all gonna finally work out for me! 😌

I know being organised has so much advantages and most of my friends are better at the whole cleanliness thing than me. When I went off to the hostel for the very first time I found that I had a clean side to me. I kept my side of the room(I share my room with five others) neat and tidy with books arranged on the table and the bed always made up. Now that I think about it, I even used to dust my room like EVERY SINGLE DAY.. I was such a good kid!

Then friendship happened. With buddies from other rooms visiting me all the time and me spending more time in their room than mine, my real messy self started to unveil all by itself. The one thing I learned from this experience is that the more comfortable we get with people, the more we reveal about ourselves! My new buds were as bad as me, so together we became this one messy squad which is my new happy family! Every day I wake up to “I can’t find my other socks or I’m borrowing your uniform shirt today so you better get one for yourself from someone else or who the heck stole my economics assignment that kept me up the whole night! If there’s one thing worse than a messy girl, it’s a squad of messy girls, I have realized. Now with one year down, our room will be shifted and all I can hope is that I don’t end up with someone with OCD because I’m pretty sure that no neat freak would wanna endure being in the same room as me.

But some day I hope I’ll finally be able to shake off this side of me and be a cleaner person. Its not like one morning I wake up and find out that I’m a clean person, no I realize it’s gonna be a long procedure. I’m taking one step a time (baby steps of course) and this time I’m not backing out..Not living in a clean environment has so much cons especially if you are prone to allergies.I always get this really bad acne breakouts and being in a messy environment is partially to blame. Plus it’s not really good for you in general to be a messy person because what if your better half is a clean freak? That’s a worrying thought, what if your husband leaves you cuz you’re too untidy (you know I’m kidding right.. Well why take the risk,Dear future husband if you ever read this : please don’t leave me. I promise I’ll be better cleaner in future).

So I have come up with some things that I wanna practice in order to be the ideal clean person.

  1. I’ll hand over the ownership of unwanted stuff from my table and bed to the trash bin.
  2. I’ll bring clothes down to the washing machine before my mom asks me to.
  3. I’ll organize my wardrobe so that I’ll not have to fumble to find clothes every time I go out.
  4. I’ll return my brother’s tees back to his wardrobe before he finds out that they’re missing.
  5. Monthly cleaning up of the room wouldn’t be missed for anything. (Hostel room included).

Written by CHIRI

 

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  1. Oh my! You remind me of myself when I was living at home with my parents. Now, I am a neat freak in my own house!!! My mom actually laughs about it because I have done a complete 180.

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  2. It’s very true that mother’s turn mad when they find a mess all around…i still hear my mom’s roar next door😆..best wishes for the future ideal clean chiri 😛

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  3. I enjoyed how you described your personality in this one, the influence of your friends and making of your “tribe” of fellow messy souls. I relate to you so much – my mother also bullied me about my room and always hung over my head how I was a tenant of her house (which I understand, but there are better ways to persuade/ask an angsty child to clean their room. My mother also invaded my privacy by showing off my room to her guests – why!? What would interest them about my room!? I moved out at an early age – 18. I was SOOOOO happy to leave the house. I immediately embarked on my own struggles. I learned that I don’t value material things as much as others, which has thankfully made my life nomadic and easy at that. I am very tidy in my minimalism and benefit from it, but of course, on my own terms. It sounds like a normal relationship to me. Thanks for sharing.

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    • Thank you for sharing your story too.. Its always comforting to know that I’m not the only one who’s struggling with the messy virus! For me my life at my parents home is officially over because I’ll have to move to other places for my education and job, so I’ll always be a guest at this home.. To tell you the truth this actually makes me sad because it’s always been my home and it sucks knowing if I’ll ever feel home at any other place. I have to be honest with myself, this village area where I get the slowest possible Internet and whatnot, is actually the place that’s the closest to my heart.. But I do have a dream of being like you Jess, a wanderer although I know its a distant dream!!

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  4. It reminds me of my stay at my home I used to be full on mess and mom always keep on shouting me to clean at least my cupboard. Thanks a lot for reminding me of those days.

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  5. I was just a similar person like you during my university days when I stayed in the hostel but after marriage things has changed and now I am no longer the “I am too lazy to clean my room type” I am more organized and sorted. Don’t pile up things for the next day. keep a basket and stock all things on that which you don’t need later you can either dispose or give it to those it belongs or who need those stuffs. You will learn to organize very soon. Lovely and entertaining post!

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    • Thank you for these tips.. I really hope that I’ll be able to put these into practice in my life.. I have even set aside a new basket just like you said.. And I’m really glad you liked my messy messy blog❤️!!!

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    • I guess in a way I enjoy being my messy self but I don’t wanna be the exact same when I grow up, that for sure!! Even I wouldn’t wanna live with myself 😂😂.. I. Hope you had a little throw back to your messy teen self

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  6. I use to leave my room messy but since I started working at home, I decided to set up a routine for myself to start organising and cleaning haha. I even make a day for a whole day cleaning.

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    • Thank you so much for your motivating words.. Really means a lot to me.. And btw I haven’t broken the five point rule in two weeks. So yay me😂😂😂

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    • Hahaaha if your kids write a blog like this, you’ll be the villain 😂😂.. Just kidding, I’m glad you haven’t forgotten your messy life childhood days.

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  7. When my mom comes to my house and says something about any mess (mind you I have two little children under 3 years old), I ask her if she wants to clean it for me since she doesn’t like it LOL (all in good fun of course). But, I also don’t live with her anymore, so it’s a little different. Honestly, I think everyone is like that until they move out. Then once it’s theirs, they keep it clean to impress people. haha

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    • Yeah even I have a lil hope that once I get my own place I’ll be a more organised person! But for how long I have no idea..! Its not that I don’t wanna be organised it’s just that I slip into my messy mode after a few days.. Its actually very funny considering my dad is an ultimate neat freak and my mom’s pretty much a tidy person too…

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